Oh the wisdom they spout that we could do without…

I’ve been following the comments on this article “Why being drunk is a feminist issue” and I’m L-I-V-I-D! I need to stop reading them because I’m going to have a heart attack but I can’t because it’s FASCINATING to read the ideas people have about rape, victims, and assault.  And because people are so steadfast in why they are right in their perspective of victim-blaming and because these same people refuse to call what they’re doing “victim blaming” it’s so much harder for them to see why they are wrong. I’ve read so many responses to the original article from women saying “I was a virgin when I was raped. I was in my house, in oversized t-shirt and sweatpants. I said no, no, no. He took me by force anyway.” People think that rape is something that happens by chance because of something the victim does. Like if you walk around the street with a mini skirt, some big bad rapist is gonna snatch you and rape you. Or if you’re too drunk, some random guy is going to force you in his car and take you. Yes that does happen. But these rapes are such a small minority. For the most part, rape does not happen like this. Even in cases when the woman was binge drinking or if she was wearing a bra and panties only, she usually still has some sort of connection to the perpetrator.

Idiots are writing shit like “women walk around feeling entitled” Well, guess fucking what. I feel entitled to not get raped. I feel entitled to be able to walk down the street knowing that my body is mine and no one gets access to it without permission.

What pisses me off over all else is that people refuse to acknowledge that we actually live in a bloody rape culture. Our porn, which on average boys start watching at 11 years old, is centered on rape culture even though it doesn’t seem like it. It’s core is in the idea that a woman goes to have a breast exam and the perverted doctor fondles her and then puts his dick in her mouth and she enjoys it. Our music vidoes, our magazines (this glee one being a pretty recent example), our tv shows, our bloody everything centers around the objectification of women and the entitlement of men. Yet we mask it off and laugh it off and ignore its real world ramifications of perpetrators but rather write fucking articles on victim blaming.